Do you want to become a mentor?

We are so glad you’re interested in joining the team! Becoming a mentor is a process, because it is such a big responsibility. To learn more about the role and our organization, you can watch an info session that we held about becoming a mentor here.

  • Mentors must:

    • Be an adoptee

    • Be 25 years of age or older

    • Have attended at least three Adoptee Lounges prior to applying to become a mentor

  • Our mentors enjoy meaningful support, growth, and recognition, including:

    • $3,000 stipend for the year

    • Free monthly access to The Adoptee Lounge

    • Monthly consultations with a licensed psychologist regarding mentor-mentee relationships and interactions

    • Expert-led mentor training

    • Mentoring is a 14-month commitment

    • Mentors average about 10–15 hours per month of work.

    • Attending the in-person training & onboarding sessions

    • Participation in Mentor Coaching Sessions

    • Attendance in the Monthly Roundtable

    • Quarterly check-ins with AMS Staff

  • You can preview our application here to give you an even better sense of what we’re looking for.

Mentor applications are currently closed. Applications will be reopened in the Fall of 2026.

View the Application

Mentor Values

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    Radical Acceptance

    We offer unconditional positive regard to all mentees while fostering an environment of respect and support.

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    Inch-Wide, Mile-Deep

    Our approach prioritizes meaningful, transformative work over surface-level efforts.

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    Openness

    We trust that the right people, timing, and outcomes will naturally emerge, staying present and open to the conversations and opportunities that unfold.

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    Boundaries

    We honor time and closure, ensuring we begin, end, and engage with intention while accepting that non-closure can be a valid stopping point.